http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 Talk Therapy Radio Breakthru Counseling Care Talk Therapy Radio addresses counseling themes in an easy, friendly and conversational style designed to find simple solutions to complicated problems. For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com en-us (c)2006 Breakthru Counseling Care. All Rights Reserved. Breakthru Counseling Care info@bccusa.org no Breakthru Counseling Care Breakthru Counseling Care Dr. Hannibal Silver Three Principles for Love 1. Gift Love and Need Love are two Dimensions of Love. Need Love is not Selfishness 2. Affection, Friendship, Eros and Compassion Love are Distinct but Inseparable 3. Love matures through Stages For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 1. Gift Love and Need Love are two Dimensions of Love. Need Love is not Selfishness 2. Affection, Friendship, Eros and Compassion Love are Distinct but Inseparable 3. Love matures through Stages For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/40 Sun, 13 Jul 2008 17:00:00 -0400 09:01 Four Perspectives on Love no Dr. Hannibal Silver Love is a Rainbow 1. Love is a Temple, Love is a Higher Law 2. Love cannot be converted into rules and external behavior 3. Love requires water (friendship) and fire (passion) For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 1. Love is a Temple, Love is a Higher Law 2. Love cannot be converted into rules and external behavior 3. Love requires water (friendship) and fire (passion) For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/41 Sun, 13 Jul 2008 17:00:00 -0400 13:54 The Colors of Love no Dr. Hannibal Silver Knowing Your Emotions ASSUMPTIONS: • Family problems are rooted in suppression of feelings, rigidity, denial of impulses, lack of awareness, emotional deadness, and overuse of defense mechanisms • Families must get in touch with their REAL feelings • Therapy works from the Inside Out • Expanding the individual’s experience opens them up to their experiences and helps to improve the functioning of the family group • Commitment to emotional well being For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 ASSUMPTIONS: • Family problems are rooted in suppression of feelings, rigidity, denial of impulses, lack of awareness, emotional deadness, and overuse of defense mechanisms • Families must get in touch with their REAL feelings • Therapy works from the Inside Out • Expanding the individual’s experience opens them up to their experiences and helps to improve the functioning of the family group • Commitment to emotional well being For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/35 Mon, 19 May 2008 17:04:00 -0400 3:20:11 Experiential Family Therapy no Dr. Hannibal Silver Knowing Your Strengths ASSUMPTIONS: • Clients want to change • There’s no such thing as resistance (clients are telling us how they cooperate) • Focus on present and future • Change the way people talk about their problems • Language creates reality • Change the way people talk: -Problem Talk -Solution Talk • Therapist and client relationship is key: -A philosophy not a set of techniques • Sense of hope “cheerleader effect” • Don’t focus on the etiology of the problem: -Solutions are not necessarily related to problems • Assume the client has strengths, resources • Only need a small change, which can snowball into a bigger change • The problem is not occurring all the time For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 ASSUMPTIONS: • Clients want to change • There’s no such thing as resistance (clients are telling us how they cooperate) • Focus on present and future • Change the way people talk about their problems • Language creates reality • Change the way people talk: -Problem Talk -Solution Talk • Therapist and client relationship is key: -A philosophy not a set of techniques • Sense of hope “cheerleader effect” • Don’t focus on the etiology of the problem: -Solutions are not necessarily related to problems • Assume the client has strengths, resources • Only need a small change, which can snowball into a bigger change • The problem is not occurring all the time For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/36 Mon, 19 May 2008 17:04:00 -0400 4:35:13 Solution Focused Family Therapy no Dr. Hannibal Silver Knowing Your Roots ASSUMPTIONS: • The past is currently influencing the present • Change can happen—individuals can move along in the process of differentiation • Differentiation: ability to maintain self in the face of high anxiety (remain autonomous in a highly emotional situation) • Differentiation is internal and relational—they are isomorphic • Anxiety is the driving force inhibiting change (it needs to be reduced to facilitate change) • High intimacy and high autonomy with a balance is ideal • Emotions are a physiological process—there is a difference between emotions and feelings; feelings are the thoughts that name and mediate emotions, give them meaning • Symptoms are indicators of stress, anxiety • Anyone can become symptomatic with enough stress; more differentiated people will be able to withstand more stress and, when they do become symptomatic, recover more quickly For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 ASSUMPTIONS: • The past is currently influencing the present • Change can happen—individuals can move along in the process of differentiation • Differentiation: ability to maintain self in the face of high anxiety (remain autonomous in a highly emotional situation) • Differentiation is internal and relational—they are isomorphic • Anxiety is the driving force inhibiting change (it needs to be reduced to facilitate change) • High intimacy and high autonomy with a balance is ideal • Emotions are a physiological process—there is a difference between emotions and feelings; feelings are the thoughts that name and mediate emotions, give them meaning • Symptoms are indicators of stress, anxiety • Anyone can become symptomatic with enough stress; more differentiated people will be able to withstand more stress and, when they do become symptomatic, recover more quickly For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/37 Mon, 19 May 2008 17:04:00 -0400 4:05:15 Bowen Family Therapy no Dr. Hannibal Silver Knowing Your Story • Personal experience is ambiguous •Reality is shaped by language used to describe it • Truth may not match historic truth, but it is true to the client • Focus on effects of the problem, not the cause (how problem impacts family; how family affects problem) • Stories organize our experience & shape our behavior • The Problem is the problem; the person is not the problem • People “are” the stories they tell • The stories we tell ourselves are often based on messages received from society or our families • People have their own unique filters by which they process messages from society For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 • Personal experience is ambiguous •Reality is shaped by language used to describe it • Truth may not match historic truth, but it is true to the client • Focus on effects of the problem, not the cause (how problem impacts family; how family affects problem) • Stories organize our experience & shape our behavior • The Problem is the problem; the person is not the problem • People “are” the stories they tell • The stories we tell ourselves are often based on messages received from society or our families • People have their own unique filters by which they process messages from society For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/38 Mon, 19 May 2008 17:04:00 -0400 4:38:13 Narrative Family Therapy no Dr. Hannibal Silver Knowing Your Identity • Reason is not inherently a threat to faith. Reason can, in fact, be a tremendous help to faith. • Careful thinking increases comprehension, and increased comprehension deepens religious commitment. • All truth will be understood in relational frames. For example: Sin, salvation, sanctification, and justification. • God is a Family and so is His Image • We will marvel at God’s consistency in his own Person, and in his creation. We will see the forest, the divine tapestry that has been woven in to a complex unity. • As this is achieved, we will find God working out his Shalom in our midst, knitting together our community into a family of God. • Dispelling doubt is the most important contribution reason can make to spiritual formation. For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 • Reason is not inherently a threat to faith. Reason can, in fact, be a tremendous help to faith. • Careful thinking increases comprehension, and increased comprehension deepens religious commitment. • All truth will be understood in relational frames. For example: Sin, salvation, sanctification, and justification. • God is a Family and so is His Image • We will marvel at God’s consistency in his own Person, and in his creation. We will see the forest, the divine tapestry that has been woven in to a complex unity. • As this is achieved, we will find God working out his Shalom in our midst, knitting together our community into a family of God. • Dispelling doubt is the most important contribution reason can make to spiritual formation. For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/39 Mon, 19 May 2008 17:04:00 -0400 4:00:26 Spiritual Family Therapy no Dr. Hannibal Silver Knowing Your Family Structure ASSUMPTIONS: • Problems reside within the family structure • Changing the structure changes the experience the client has • Don’t go from problem to solution, we just move gradually • Children’s problems are often related to the boundary between the parents For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 ASSUMPTIONS: • Problems reside within the family structure • Changing the structure changes the experience the client has • Don’t go from problem to solution, we just move gradually • Children’s problems are often related to the boundary between the parents For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/34 Mon, 19 May 2008 16:58:00 -0400 3:24:08 Structural Family Therapy no Dr. Hannibal Silver Change is Possible • I believe in personal dignity • The Power of Gossip • Gossip make us feel good and superior • A New Heart is Free • Self-Justification is Useless • Favorite Bible Verse is a Silly Question • Suspicion generates bad results • Suspicion is a “prophetic gift” • Change is Possible and Achievable For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com http://www.breakthrucounseling.com/index.php?pagekey=460 • I believe in personal dignity • The Power of Gossip • Gossip make us feel good and superior • A New Heart is Free • Self-Justification is Useless • Favorite Bible Verse is a Silly Question • Suspicion generates bad results • Suspicion is a “prophetic gift” • Change is Possible and Achievable For more information, visit: http://www.breakthrucounseling.com www.breakthrucounseling.com/29 Sat, 07 Jul 2007 00:09:00 -0400 08:41 Paris Hilton no